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The Perfect Man Changes Drastically as They Age

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Have you ever looked back at an ex-boyfriend and asked, how did I ever date that person when we were so obviously incompatible

It’s not necessarily that you were incompatible…then. According to a survey conducted by Match.com over the past year, your tastes have simply changed over the years.

Is your family keeping you single? 

Men must possess certain qualities to be considered “the perfect man,” and those parameters change drastically as women age. In the survey, called “The Ages of Man,” what women want from their relationships with men is broken down according to age range. 

“[The research] also disproves the notion that standards drop later in life, as women over 55 were shown to be most picky about who they date,” a Match UK rep told Yahoo! Shine. 

The results of the study are summarized below. You can see the full study results here

Age 18-24: 

Women’s main concern in their late teens and early twenties is that their partner gets along with their friends. “47 percent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of.” 

“This is a very relational social time in a female’s life. I refer to it as the ‘fit into me’ stage. Women want men who will fit in to their lives,” Dr. Karen Ruskin, a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, told Yahoo! Shine. “A key way to fit in is to be viewed positively by one’s social network, and to have shared interests. It is less about future and more about what feels good right now.” 

Also, women this age are far more likely to date a man in better physical shape than them, but shared tastes in “books, music, and film,” are extremely important. 

Age 25-34: 

At this stage in their lives most women are focused on their careers, but physical attraction and sexual compatibility are most important. They also consider a man’s level of “ambition” to be important. Two-thirds of surveyed in this age group say this is a key trait. 

“This is the ‘can you add value or will you take-eth away’ stage. Women are starting to think about having kids someday and they certainly do not want a man who is mooching off of them,” Dr. Ruskin explains. “They want someone who can be a partner with them so that their children can have the life they want their children to have, and so that they can have the lives they want to have.” 

Age 35-44: 

Older men
 become more attractive to women in their late thirties and early forties, according to the study. This could be because they are looking to settle down and start a family, says Dr. Ruskin. “Women are mindful of their biological clocks ticking, which is why they want someone established, stable, and successful.” They are no longer dating for attractiveness, for fun and to see where it goes, or for social fit with friends, she says. 

According to the study, “73 percent said they would be willing to date someone more than five years their senior,” and a man’s manners at this age is essential. “Less than one percent of the women surveyed said they would date a man with bad manners.” 

This article was contributed by Jessica Ferri. For more about this survey, click here.

Add to these facts, Christian character and faith in God and this is what a Christian woman would consider to be a perfect mate. I met a woman, age 35, still single, Christian and waiting on God for a husband. She confessed to having lived with a guy for years, thinking he was the one. There was an obvious compromise in their relationship, which did not help either of them in their spiritual growth. I shared with this younger woman how I had to learn that God’s ways are not the world’s ways. Once I honored God with obedience in following His ways and not my own, He brought my husband into my life. I sensed she walked away encouraged. If you long for a husband and truly want to please God in your life, you too can learn God’s ways. “Date, Pray, Wait” is a quick easy read with 10 chapters and discussions questions, which you may want to go over with a couple of friends as you read through it. Pick up a copy today, click here. 

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