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Why remain pure before marriage?


Why is staying pure before marriage so important to some and not to others? Why is being a virgin on your marriage bed the ultimate sign of purity? I’ve known some girls who were still virgins when they married, yet who did very unpure things with guys they dated; all but the worst nasty act which could have marked them as unclean and shunned in certain circles. Does this mean they are still pure?



What is virginity? Scientifically speaking from a healthcare standpoint, a virgin is one who has never partaken in any sexual act involving entering the vulva area or vagina by a man’s penis, orally or otherwise. For young men, virginity entails total abstinence from entering a woman’s vagina, a man’s anal area, or partaking in oral sex of any kind, weather it be a man or a woman and God forbid anything else. We will not mention the Clinton affair in which oral sex was so misconstrued and created a total misunderstanding of what true sex really is.  

What is Biblical purity? The Bible tells us not to partake in unclean lifestyles which involve all types of sexual immorality. ( Well, there’s a mouthful for ya. Especially in light of today’s so-called standards of morality, which have changed dramatically over the past twenty years. How many Christian couples do you know or have met in recent years who are actually waiting until they marry before having sex? Not many, I can tell you. In fact, I’ve met several Christian couples who are either living together or planning to before they marry. Likewise, many Christian men expect to have sexual relations with the women they date, even without the benefit of being engaged first. Christian women are expecting the same as well. They are simply following the trends of today’s lifestyles and expectations. Although I did hear a recent news report that abstinence before marriage is on the rise now. 

Some couples are fortunate enough to find a compatible mate, which doesn’t seem fair at all for the rest of us who do wait. Nonetheless, we will all be subject and held accountable to the same sovereign God in the end. I think the true issue here is the overall lack of respect for Godliness and not fearing God. So should we trust God for our mate or do we just go our own way and date whoever we want, do whatever we want with them? What difference does it really make in the end? That is the question. 

There are a lot of factors to consider in the long run. Such as, years later into the marriage when children are now involved, what if one partner comes out with the AIDS virus or another sexually transmitted virus which was contracted way back when and lied dormant inside your body? And now, this “playing house before marriage” with multiple lovers until you find ‘the one’ which wasn’t such a big deal then, suddenly becomes a life threatening decease which will effect the lives of your family. That’ll get you on your knees.

Fearing God doesn’t mean you have to be afraid of Him. Rather, it means you respect God and His word, the Bible, enough to do what He commands us to do. Please note, Biblical mandates are not a choice or a list of options. In other words, there are always consequences to our actions. Good old Newton’s law even confirms this. “To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” If we choose to act in a way opposite of what God’s word is telling us, then we can expect an equal and opposite reaction from God. And let me tell you from my own personal experience, that ain’t so pretty or fun. Being on God’s bad side isn’t a good place to be. 1 Samuel 15:22 tells us that “…to obey is better than sacrifice.” So what if you still go to church and volunteer for activities? So what if you memorize scriptures and teach Sunday School? So what if you still help the elderly and climb trees to get the neighbor’s cat? Do you really think all that is going to make up for the fact that you didn’t trust God enough in the first place to make Him Lord over your lifestyle and body? Romans 12:2 tells us to “Be not conformed to the ways of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Again, this is a command, not a choice.


What you don’t know will hurt you. So maybe you should read up on God’s way of doing things. Pick up a copy of “Date, Pray, Wait” to help you along the way. You’ll be glad you did. Click Here – to purchase your copy today.