Sometimes girls and guys can be a bit needy when it comes to dating. Especially, if one hasn’t dated in a very long time. This can lead to perilous times ahead, if not approaching a potential date with care. It’s just too easy to get overly excited and fall prey to an inflated infatuation of someone who hasn’t even said hello to you yet. This is what happens to Mary, played by Sandra Bullock, in “All About Steve.” Unfortunately, Mary gets pushed away, but doesn’t take the very obvious hints. Through her well-meaning efforts, she finds her self in peril but yet still manages to end up hero of the day. She doesn’t get her man in the end, but he does come to respect her and admire her. He turns from his “Shallow Hal” ways and comes to understand women in a whole new light.
Many times during my own dating experiences, I too fell victim to the overzealous expectations of a first date. Poor guy didn’t know what was about to hit him. All the same, I learned from my mistakes. And most times those mistakes actually turned things around for the best of all involved. My own ego was tempered as the reality of the situation settled my mind and the pitter-patter of my heart.
It’s hard not to grasp hold of that long awaited dream to finally have your own Mr. Right, the love of your life, walk into your life. Remember that love takes time to build that mutual respect and friendship. Patience truly is a virtue when it comes to love. Waiting for the right one to come along and then waiting for him to make that first move is equally difficult at times.
Then there are those of us who seem to have been waiting way too long for our supposed Mr. Right to actually pop the question. Is he serious about this relationship or not? It’s been how many years now? I was invited to a church to sing once where a woman showed up wearing a wedding dress with three children in tow. When I saw two other women carrying in a wedding cake, it became obvious that her family was prepared for an impromptu wedding. The preacher and his wife knew the couple well and asked me to sing a wedding song. “Just sing anything you know off the top of your head, we’ve been waiting for this one for a long time,” the preacher’s wife explained. Then suddenly, in walked the groom, in a stiff robotic fashion with flattened brows, dressed in a rented blue and pink tuxedo and the wedding commenced. It was hilarious, in retrospect, how this mother of three children had finally coaxed the father into marrying her. Even so, it was also a shame that the children did not have the benefit of knowing their parents in a committed relationship before then. I wondered how this might ultimately effect their outlook on marriage in the future.
Than again, I’ve had friends who dated less than six weeks before they got engaged. Yes, sometimes those whirlwind romances really work. For me, however, I needed more time to know for sure. It took a few months for my husband and I to even start talking about marriage. After a year of dating, he asked for my hand in marriage. By then, I was clearly anticipating that very special moment.
In I Corinthians 13 (The Love Chapter), the Bible tells us that ” … Love is patient, love is kind … love does not demand its own way.” When you meet who you think is Mr. or Mrs. Right, remember to be patient and wait on the Lord to bring confirmation. It is by God’s peace that you will know if this person is the right one for you or not.
Be willing to wait on God for His best for you.
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