Category Archives: Dating Prayer

Be not dismayed…

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Be not dismayed if a date never calls you again or if a long time relationship does not work out. Or perhaps a divorce is upon you now. God is ever ready to take up where that person has failed you. You’re a pretty special person to Him anyway. He doesn’t like it when one of His own gets hurt or is left feeling worthless or not good enough.

Trust me – You are way more than just good enough!

He has a special someone already picked out for you–Himself. Yes, you might say our Heavenly Father believes in arranged marriage. He pre-arranges everything and orchestrates our lives right down to the smallest detail. If we choose to follow Him, listen to Him, and move in the direction we sense Him drawing us, then we will be right in line with His will and His way. Pray for God to order your steps in the way He wants you to go and to give you those divine encounters that only He can bring to pass. You might just be amazed at who you meet and where; sometimes in the most unexpected places.

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5, NIV

For those of you who are struggling through a divorce or a break up, it’s time now to allow Christ to be your Knight in shining armor. He’s ready to sweep you off your feet and carry you away on His steed of righteousness.

The key is to “Remain in Him.”

For more about how to make Christ your Knight in shining armor, you can purchase a copy of “Date, Pray, Wait” available now on Amazon.com and this website.

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And on a date she shall go …

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Are you finally back in the swing of dating again after a long hiatus?  Say you recently went through a very trying divorce and have finally reached recovery mode. All the same, you are hesitant to jump back into a relationship and understandably so. Who knows what wolves in sheep’s clothing might be lurking about in the scary forest of betrayal?  But, Little Red Riding Hood doesn’t have to go it alone. No! She can and should have an armory hidden inside her basket of goodies ready to blast away any lurching enemies.

And I’m not just talking about condoms or birth control here, Ladies and gentlemen. Although I am not blinded to the fact that many Christian women and men who are dating do engage in pre-marital sex. This is no secret by clergy either. However, keep in mind that if you do involve yourself physically with someone in a “Hook Up” relationship, you are at risk not only of STD’s but of spiritual separation from God. Is this kind of dangerous behavior really worth it?

The armory I speak of is more of the spiritual kind. Arming yourself with the Word of God, the breast plate of righteousness, and the sword of the Spirit will keep your heart and mind in a safe place. That’s not to say the person you go out with will be doing or thinking the same way. Hopefully, you will be dating other Christian people who have like-minded ideology such as yourself. But, there are those few exceptions when people whom you think are one way turn out to be another way entirely. They have arterial motives which catch you off guard.

Be not afraid. God always provides a way of escape. It is wise to have a backup plan in place for this very reason. Mace or pepper spray is helpful, but even better, prayer. Also, always have your cell phone handy to make a 911 call, or if things are not exactly at that kind of emergency level though they might be for you, at least have a trusted friend on call to come get you or money for cab fare.

Another issue that could arise might involve exposing too much too soon about yourself to another person who may not be ready for it yet. A date is supposed to be light and fun. You’ve had too much heavy laden problems weighing you down so allow yourself to enjoy life again. I give you permission, if that is what you need.

Sometimes you just need to go with the flow and let hope float again. 

Enjoy dating and remember when you honor God in obedience, you honor yourself.

For more information on dating, download or buy a copy of  “Date, Pray, Wait.”  Available on this website, Amazon, Nook, and on the author website at http://londahayden.com.

Come Meet the Author

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My next book signing is coming up soon. If you are anywhere near Millington, TN, which is just north of Memphis, please make every effort to get there. I would love to meet you. 

September 8 – Signing

Apple Garth Books (1:00-2:00)
http://applegarthbooks.com
8507 Hwy 51, Ste. 103
Millington, TN 
901-873-0733

This is a great little bookstore which has been in Millington for a while now. We want to help keep our bookstores in business. So come on by and make a purchase. Any purchase will do. I’ll just be happy to see your faces come through that door. They also trade books, so bring your old books and get credit for new ones. 

 

Distinguishing Values

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The Quiet Ride

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Excerpt taken from “Date, Pray, Wait”

It was a balmy summer night just after a Bible study at a friend’s house. As a Christian single, I chose to live a virtuous lifestyle. This left me alone and date free on many occasions. A guy named Mark attended the small group. We knew each other well, but had never dated. He drove a motorcycle and wore a leather jacket. We talked in the front yard for a while, and as I turned to leave, Mark asked me if I would like to go for a ride. I hesitated, but then remembered the thrill of being on a motorcycle once before and considered the cool breeze against my skin now beaded with sweat from the humidity. Mark handed me a helmet, and I hopped on behind him.

“Hold on,” he said.

I grabbed his belt loops.

“No, you’ll have to hold on tighter than that.”

I wrapped my arms around his waist and screamed as the bike jerked forward onto the street with the blast of the engine fading behind us. My long hair flew from beneath the helmet, as a smile of relief welcomed the cool breeze on my face. The thrill of the ride brought a much-needed exuberance I hadn’t felt in a long time. This is the coolest ever, I thought.

After a few minutes, I laid my head against his back, closed my eyes and let the wind carry my thoughts away. My imagination and the mesmerizing hum of the motorcycle settled my mind. The warmth of his back penetrated through the leather jacket to my cheek and upper body. Our souls began a silent communication with one another. Nothing needed to be said as two lonely hearts comforted one another in quiet revelry.

He drove for a long time, then headed up a secluded country road. The stars were bright in a moonless sky, but it was so dark you couldn’t even see your hand in front of your face. The motorcycle slowed to a stop, and we got off the bike to stand on the edge of a dirt road. I could barely see the barbed wire fence silhouetted in starlight before us.

“Do you mind stopping for a while? I like coming here to enjoy the peace and quiet,” Mark said.

“Sure,” I said.

I looked up at the stars and commented on their brightness. He mentioned how the chirping of the crickets sounded like music, and that was the extent of our conversation. We stood there for what seemed an eternity just listening to the symphony of life being orchestrated around us. In that moment surrounded by darkness, I felt safe and at peace.

We got back on the bike, and he dropped me off at my car. I drove home sensing something special had happened in the darkness of the quiet ride we had shared that night. God used that moment to remind me that He would never leave me or forsake me. Being single left me feeling completely alone at times. That motorcycle ride reminded me that God was still there giving me a quiet ride through the darkness. He didn’t need to say much. The warmth of his presence comforted me, and the orchestration of life being conducted by the Holy Spirit was all around me.

You are not alone. God’s presence is with you to comfort you and give you peace. Hold on tight and He will give you a quiet ride through the darkness of life.

Psalm 23:1-2 “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters.”

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Dating Infatuation Flops

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Sometimes girls and guys can be a bit needy when it comes to dating. Especially, if one hasn’t dated in a very long time. This can lead to perilous times ahead, if not approaching a potential date with care. It’s just too easy to get overly excited and fall prey to an inflated infatuation of someone who hasn’t even said hello to you yet. This is what happens to Mary, played by Sandra Bullock, in “All About Steve.”  Unfortunately, Mary gets pushed away, but doesn’t take the very obvious hints. Through her well-meaning efforts, she finds her self in peril but yet still manages to end up hero of the day. She doesn’t get her man in the end, but he does come to respect her and admire her. He turns from his “Shallow Hal” ways and comes to understand women in a whole new light.

Many times during my own dating experiences, I too fell victim to the overzealous expectations of a first date. Poor guy didn’t know what was about to hit him. All the same, I learned from my mistakes. And most times those mistakes actually turned things around for the best of all involved. My own ego was tempered as the reality of the situation settled my mind and the pitter-patter of my heart.

It’s hard not to grasp hold of that long awaited dream to finally have your own Mr. Right, the love of your life, walk into your life. Remember that love takes time to build that mutual respect and friendship. Patience truly is a virtue when it comes to love. Waiting for the right one to come along and then waiting for him to make that first move is equally difficult at times.

Then there are those of us who seem to have been waiting way too long for our supposed Mr. Right to actually pop the question. Is he serious about this relationship or not? It’s been how many years now? I was invited to a church to sing once where a woman showed up wearing a wedding dress with three children in tow. When I saw two other women carrying in a wedding cake, it became obvious that her family was prepared for an impromptu wedding. The preacher and his wife knew the couple well and asked me to sing a wedding song. “Just sing anything you know off the top of your head, we’ve been waiting for this one for a long time,” the preacher’s wife explained. Then suddenly, in walked the groom, in a stiff robotic fashion with flattened brows, dressed in a rented blue and pink tuxedo and the wedding commenced. It was hilarious, in retrospect, how this mother of three children had finally coaxed the father into marrying her. Even so, it was also a shame that the children did not have the benefit of knowing their parents in a committed relationship before then. I wondered how this might ultimately effect their outlook on marriage in the future.

Than again, I’ve had friends who dated less than six weeks before they got engaged. Yes, sometimes those whirlwind romances really work. For me, however, I needed more time to know for sure. It took a few months for my husband and I to even start talking about marriage. After a year of dating, he asked for my hand in marriage. By then, I was clearly anticipating that very special moment.

In I Corinthians 13 (The Love Chapter), the Bible tells us that ” … Love is patient, love is kind … love does not demand its own way.” When you meet who you think is Mr. or Mrs. Right, remember to be patient and wait on the Lord to bring confirmation. It is by God’s peace that you will know if this person is the right one for you or not.

Be willing to wait on God for His best for you.

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