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Let go of people who hold you back…


If you are in a relationship that’s not working, let Madea explain this to you.


Get Your Game On



Hopefully you’ve purged yourself of any unwise actions you’ve been doing with your hands which has held you back from being a wise person. In my previous post, I mentioned how the Bible speaks of an unwise woman (person). How with your hands you either build yourself up or tear yourself down. There are so many things we do with our hands. In fact, we do almost everything with our hands. We put on cosmetics and wash our faces. We swipe our debits and credit cards for various purchases. We write emails and text messages to our friends, families, business associates, and sometimes enemies. We pay our bills online or snail mail. We punch in phone numbers on our phones or computers to communicate. We update our social networks through Facebook and Twitter. Are we careful with our words? Or do we simply post random thoughts, not taking into account who might stumble upon them and who might be offended or encouraged by them? With our hands we reach out to give or accept a comforting hug. With our hands we cook and bake to feed our families and entertain friends. With our hands we caress our babies, bath them, and play with them. With our hands we give loving or mean and unkind gestures. We can hit, punch, or knock down someone. We can pull a trigger, shoot an arrow, With our hands we choose which items to buy at the grocery stores. With our hands we smoke and drink, we take drugs, either prescribed or for recreation. With our hands we drive careful or reckless. We take notes and written exams. We help our aging parents to their feet or into their beds. When you think about it, there really isn’t much we don’t do without our hands. We bath and groom ourselves, we clean our homes, mow our lawns, wash our cars, fill them with gas, change a tire or oil.

Thank God for hands. But more than that, we should thank God for the wisdom to use our hands for good and not evil. Aren’t we His hands and feet after all? So let’s be wise in how we use our hands day by day. And if you goof up, forgive yourself and do it right next time. Don’t beat yourself up over it. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. Give yourself a hug and tell yourself it’s all going to be okay.

If you followed my instructions from the last post to begin the purging process, then you’ve no doubt come to understand yourself a little better. A lot of unnecessary purchases are made through emotional spending. It’s very hard to not want to make yourself feel better by not going shopping or getting a new hair style. Especially if you’ve just come out of a bad relationship. There are other ways to handle this. If you are an emotional spender, which I suspect many of us are myself included, it is smart to have a game plan in place for such times. I say game plan, but it really is more like a preventative medicine plan of action (PMPA). A way to keep yourself from taking a handful of pills to end it all or from getting yourself into massive debt.

Step 1 – Food – yes, I said it – Food. Always eat something you love, but here’s the kicker, only eat a little bit of it. Do you like pie? Eat only a small piece and not the crust. You can have ice cream, but only one scoop in a cup, not a cone.

Step 2 – Drink – Yes, I said that too.  Drink whatever you want. A glass of wine, a cocktail, iced tea, lemonade, whatever you really like. But again, only one. Just enough to get a nice little buzz going and get your happy face on.

Step 3 – Exercise – Yes, you heard me. Now get on the treadmill or go for a walk. Get those endorphins working for you. Endorphins are our friends.

More on developing your Preventative Medicine Plan of Action in a following post. Stay tuned. And don’t forget to check out my book Date Pray Wait. You can get it on Amazon.

Watch out for Junk in the Trunk


Ever get into a relationship only to find out the person isn’t who you thought they were at all? Scary isn’t it? A friend of mine recently befriended someone on a popular Christian dating site who sounded wonderful and legit until she received a sudden request for money. Big Red Flag!!! Thank God she was alert enough and had not gotten too emotionally involved. Therefore, she was not so easily deceived. She knew to pull the plug quick and put a stop to all communications immediately. Let this be a warning to you. T. D. Jakes shares this funny video as a visual example.

My Interview with Darien Martin for Radio Show


I want to thank Darien Martin for hosting me on his radio show “It’s All About You” about my book “Date, Pray, Wait.”  Darien was very receptive and gracious. You can listen in on the interview by clicking on the link provided below.

Radio interview with Darius Martin on “It’s All About You”



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Treehouse Romances


Treehouse RomancesWorld’s Largest Treehouse

Did you know that the World’s largest treehouse is in Crossville, TN. Horace Burgess’s treehouse may be as close to heaven as a body can get in Cumberland County. It rises 97 feet into the sky, the support provided by a live, 80-foot-tall white oak 12 feet in diameter at its base. Six other trees brace the tower-like fortress, but Burgess says its foundation is in God. I built it for everybody. It’s God’s treehouse. He keeps watch over it,” said Burgess, who received his inspiration in a vision that came to him in 1993.

“I was praying one day, and the Lord said, ‘If you build me a treehouse, I’ll see you never run out of material.”

So what does a treehouse have to do with dating? Remember the treehouse in Swiss Family Robinson and the romance between the two teenagers? The whole adventure on a deserted island romantisized everything. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live in a treehouse with your own built in Tarzan? Don’t we all? But let’s face it, the twenty first century Tarzans of the concrete jungle no longer run around in a loin cloth, rather a business suit or at least Dockers and a dress shirt. Ok, in some cases, jeans and tee shirt. And our treehouse mansions of today take way to many trees to build, i.e. global warming; not to mention the impending safety hazards a real treehouse that sits several feet off the ground would present once the children come along. Sorry, my practical side just kicked into overdrive here.

At my front porch, a barn swallow built a nest and has now raised at least two different families. However, this past week I walked out my front door only to find two tiny bird bodies lying in a hundled mass flat as pancakes on the concrete porch. Their fully formed bodies had wings with only a few feathers. I surmised they must have tried to venture out of the nest on their own without Mama bird’s careful supervision, very sad indeed. Yet, a few days later I noticed the mother bird flying in a patterned like formation and realized she was actually giving flight lessons to her remaining babies who were dutifully perched along the edge of the nest observing her. How sad it was to see the demise of her other baby birds because they were not willing to wait.

I couldn’t help but think of how God prompts us by the Holy Spirit as to when we should move forward in His perfect will and timing. But if we are not willing to wait for Him, then we may face difficulty and possibly deadly circumstances ahead, just like those baby birds. Before joining that dating service website, answering a personal ad in the newspaper, or starting up a friendly chat with a stranger on Facebook, stop and think. Have you prayed about this and asked God what He would have to do. Are you willing to wait for God’s timing before venturing off on your own in pursuit of Mr. Right? In my book, “Date, Pray, Wait,” I share about the Esther Effect and how God’s timing makes all the difference. Order your copy today at Amazon.com.

For more about the world’s largest treehouse, watch this video: http://youtu.be/adXuQi0ewH4