Ever get into a relationship only to find out the person isn’t who you thought they were at all? Scary isn’t it? A friend of mine recently befriended someone on a popular Christian dating site who sounded wonderful and legit until she received a sudden request for money. Big Red Flag!!! Thank God she was alert enough and had not gotten too emotionally involved. Therefore, she was not so easily deceived. She knew to pull the plug quick and put a stop to all communications immediately. Let this be a warning to you. T. D. Jakes shares this funny video as a visual example.
Are you finally back in the swing of dating again after a long hiatus? Say you recently went through a very trying divorce and have finally reached recovery mode. All the same, you are hesitant to jump back into a relationship and understandably so. Who knows what wolves in sheep’s clothing might be lurking about in the scary forest of betrayal? But, Little Red Riding Hood doesn’t have to go it alone. No! She can and should have an armory hidden inside her basket of goodies ready to blast away any lurching enemies.
And I’m not just talking about condoms or birth control here, Ladies and gentlemen. Although I am not blinded to the fact that many Christian women and men who are dating do engage in pre-marital sex. This is no secret by clergy either. However, keep in mind that if you do involve yourself physically with someone in a “Hook Up” relationship, you are at risk not only of STD’s but of spiritual separation from God. Is this kind of dangerous behavior really worth it?
The armory I speak of is more of the spiritual kind. Arming yourself with the Word of God, the breast plate of righteousness, and the sword of the Spirit will keep your heart and mind in a safe place. That’s not to say the person you go out with will be doing or thinking the same way. Hopefully, you will be dating other Christian people who have like-minded ideology such as yourself. But, there are those few exceptions when people whom you think are one way turn out to be another way entirely. They have arterial motives which catch you off guard.
Be not afraid. God always provides a way of escape. It is wise to have a backup plan in place for this very reason. Mace or pepper spray is helpful, but even better, prayer. Also, always have your cell phone handy to make a 911 call, or if things are not exactly at that kind of emergency level though they might be for you, at least have a trusted friend on call to come get you or money for cab fare.
Another issue that could arise might involve exposing too much too soon about yourself to another person who may not be ready for it yet. A date is supposed to be light and fun. You’ve had too much heavy laden problems weighing you down so allow yourself to enjoy life again. I give you permission, if that is what you need.
Sometimes you just need to go with the flow and let hope float again.
Enjoy dating and remember when you honor God in obedience, you honor yourself.
For more information on dating, download or buy a copy of “Date, Pray, Wait.” Available on this website, Amazon, Nook, and on the author website at http://londahayden.com.