If you are in a relationship that’s not working, let Madea explain this to you.
But what if Mr. Right never comes along? What if I never marry? What if God’s will is for me to stay single the rest of my life? I can hear your hearts crying. If you being married is your heart’s desire and that desire has grown, then be assured that desire was given to you by God. Scripture tells us In Psalms 37:4 that He gives us the desires of our hearts. This means God placed that desire inside you to make you willing to prepare yourself for receiving His desires for you. We tend to think about this scripture in a more selfish light as if God’s our magic Genie just waiting to grant us our every wish. But in fact, God is the one who actually instills His desires for you inside your heart for His purpose and glory. Rest assured, if your desire to meet the man of your dreams and get married, it will happen one way or another. Waiting for God’s best is the key to receiving the Prince Charming God intends for you.
“Be still and know He is God.” Psalm 46:10
“Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and He will make your paths straight.”
Here is a great video with Jase Robertson and his wife, Missy, from Duck Dynasty.
Interesting to note is the fact that Jase and Missy report to have been virgins when they married. This is very rare anymore in our society today. However, this is a great testament to God‘s faithfulness to honor those who are brave enough to follow Him in obedience. I refer to this as the “Big O” factor, which should not be confused with the more commonly known of counterpart.
Understanding true happiness and how one experiences it is just one of the many treasures revealed in this video.
For more on the “Big O” factor, pick up a copy of “Date, Pray, Wait,” available now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and ebook formats.
Sometimes girls and guys can be a bit needy when it comes to dating. Especially, if one hasn’t dated in a very long time. This can lead to perilous times ahead, if not approaching a potential date with care. It’s just too easy to get overly excited and fall prey to an inflated infatuation of someone who hasn’t even said hello to you yet. This is what happens to Mary, played by Sandra Bullock, in “All About Steve.” Unfortunately, Mary gets pushed away, but doesn’t take the very obvious hints. Through her well-meaning efforts, she finds her self in peril but yet still manages to end up hero of the day. She doesn’t get her man in the end, but he does come to respect her and admire her. He turns from his “Shallow Hal” ways and comes to understand women in a whole new light.
Many times during my own dating experiences, I too fell victim to the overzealous expectations of a first date. Poor guy didn’t know what was about to hit him. All the same, I learned from my mistakes. And most times those mistakes actually turned things around for the best of all involved. My own ego was tempered as the reality of the situation settled my mind and the pitter-patter of my heart.
It’s hard not to grasp hold of that long awaited dream to finally have your own Mr. Right, the love of your life, walk into your life. Remember that love takes time to build that mutual respect and friendship. Patience truly is a virtue when it comes to love. Waiting for the right one to come along and then waiting for him to make that first move is equally difficult at times.
Then there are those of us who seem to have been waiting way too long for our supposed Mr. Right to actually pop the question. Is he serious about this relationship or not? It’s been how many years now? I was invited to a church to sing once where a woman showed up wearing a wedding dress with three children in tow. When I saw two other women carrying in a wedding cake, it became obvious that her family was prepared for an impromptu wedding. The preacher and his wife knew the couple well and asked me to sing a wedding song. “Just sing anything you know off the top of your head, we’ve been waiting for this one for a long time,” the preacher’s wife explained. Then suddenly, in walked the groom, in a stiff robotic fashion with flattened brows, dressed in a rented blue and pink tuxedo and the wedding commenced. It was hilarious, in retrospect, how this mother of three children had finally coaxed the father into marrying her. Even so, it was also a shame that the children did not have the benefit of knowing their parents in a committed relationship before then. I wondered how this might ultimately effect their outlook on marriage in the future.
Than again, I’ve had friends who dated less than six weeks before they got engaged. Yes, sometimes those whirlwind romances really work. For me, however, I needed more time to know for sure. It took a few months for my husband and I to even start talking about marriage. After a year of dating, he asked for my hand in marriage. By then, I was clearly anticipating that very special moment.
In I Corinthians 13 (The Love Chapter), the Bible tells us that ” … Love is patient, love is kind … love does not demand its own way.” When you meet who you think is Mr. or Mrs. Right, remember to be patient and wait on the Lord to bring confirmation. It is by God’s peace that you will know if this person is the right one for you or not.
Be willing to wait on God for His best for you.