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New Year’s Eve Date? Yikes!!!

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Is having sex with a random stranger really all that great? How awkward, unromantic, and non-committal. (Not to mention the possible STD left behind.) But I guess some people don’t care about all that. They just want the sex or to say they had sex. Chalk another mark up on the bedroom wall. Yeah, you! And just how happy are you with no one to really care about you besides your parents, maybe? No one to even call the day after and ask to go to the movies or out on a ‘real’ date, besides a girlfriend, maybe? How exactly does that work for you? Is “Sex in the City” really the lifestyle you want? If you are a complete control freak, I guess so. In actuality, my guess is you’re a pretty lonely person.

That empty, lonely feeling overwhelms at times. All the sex in the world can’t take that away either. Sex, drugs, or any other worldly substance can only provide a temporary fulfillment and very temporary at that. In the end, you are still left alone with yourself. My guess is the picture you have of yourself at that point isn’t very pretty either. You are left feeling worthless and really tear yourself down. So then you go shopping and spend money you don’t have in order to feel better.

In Proverbs 14:1, the Bible tells us a wise woman builds up her house, while a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands. A woman who lives by the current trends of this world will only abuse herself even further. With her own hands, she will pull out that credit card and overpay for items she doesn’t need. With her own hands, she will make herself look provocative in order to seduce an unsuspecting soul. With her own hands, she will stuff herself with unhealthy foods.

The question is, are you a wise woman or a foolish one? Are you living in a way that builds you up or are you tearing yourself down with your own hands? You can assess yourself, by watching what you do with your own hands. Keep a daily log for a week or perhaps even a month. How many times did you use a credit card unnecessarily for only wants instead of needs? How many bills could you not pay? How many snacks did you eat? How much money did you put in a vending machine for snacks or sodas? How many times did you primp in front of a mirror with your makeup and hair? How many dates did you go on and didn’t have sex? How many dates did you go on for only the sex? Write beside each item you purchased weather it was a need or want. Then check yes or no, if it built you up or tore you down as a person. The next step is to begin the purging process. This is the part that hurts a little, but it will leave you feeling better about yourself in the long run. Good luck learning to be a wise woman and have a much happier New Year!

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Treehouse Romances

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Treehouse RomancesWorld’s Largest Treehouse

Did you know that the World’s largest treehouse is in Crossville, TN. Horace Burgess’s treehouse may be as close to heaven as a body can get in Cumberland County. It rises 97 feet into the sky, the support provided by a live, 80-foot-tall white oak 12 feet in diameter at its base. Six other trees brace the tower-like fortress, but Burgess says its foundation is in God. I built it for everybody. It’s God’s treehouse. He keeps watch over it,” said Burgess, who received his inspiration in a vision that came to him in 1993.

“I was praying one day, and the Lord said, ‘If you build me a treehouse, I’ll see you never run out of material.”

So what does a treehouse have to do with dating? Remember the treehouse in Swiss Family Robinson and the romance between the two teenagers? The whole adventure on a deserted island romantisized everything. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live in a treehouse with your own built in Tarzan? Don’t we all? But let’s face it, the twenty first century Tarzans of the concrete jungle no longer run around in a loin cloth, rather a business suit or at least Dockers and a dress shirt. Ok, in some cases, jeans and tee shirt. And our treehouse mansions of today take way to many trees to build, i.e. global warming; not to mention the impending safety hazards a real treehouse that sits several feet off the ground would present once the children come along. Sorry, my practical side just kicked into overdrive here.

At my front porch, a barn swallow built a nest and has now raised at least two different families. However, this past week I walked out my front door only to find two tiny bird bodies lying in a hundled mass flat as pancakes on the concrete porch. Their fully formed bodies had wings with only a few feathers. I surmised they must have tried to venture out of the nest on their own without Mama bird’s careful supervision, very sad indeed. Yet, a few days later I noticed the mother bird flying in a patterned like formation and realized she was actually giving flight lessons to her remaining babies who were dutifully perched along the edge of the nest observing her. How sad it was to see the demise of her other baby birds because they were not willing to wait.

I couldn’t help but think of how God prompts us by the Holy Spirit as to when we should move forward in His perfect will and timing. But if we are not willing to wait for Him, then we may face difficulty and possibly deadly circumstances ahead, just like those baby birds. Before joining that dating service website, answering a personal ad in the newspaper, or starting up a friendly chat with a stranger on Facebook, stop and think. Have you prayed about this and asked God what He would have to do. Are you willing to wait for God’s timing before venturing off on your own in pursuit of Mr. Right? In my book, “Date, Pray, Wait,” I share about the Esther Effect and how God’s timing makes all the difference. Order your copy today at Amazon.com.

For more about the world’s largest treehouse, watch this video: http://youtu.be/adXuQi0ewH4